Exploring the boundaries of what's possible by sharing and "saying what can't be said"
Last week I recorded an interview with David Winning, a Hollywood director that has
directed over 46 feature films, including 26 Hallmark/Lifetime movies.
The link below is to the highlights reel.
This link is to the entire interview:
This interview changed my link in a few ways.
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Have a great day.
I literally just uploaded my final cover and manuscript for my third book. I am now just waiting for the email from Amazon telling me it’s approved and available for purchase.
It’s been about 10 months since I went to the WOW book camp. I hadn’t planned on writing another book. Vishal’s technique and process was so easy to follow that I wrote this book in 3 days. Since then I have refined and rewritten it and finally approved the final manuscript today.
Since the book camp I published a second book, too. I hadn’t planned on doing that one either. It just kind of happened in a program called Book to Business with Lin Ellioff.
My first book, The Second Piece of French Toast, was published in December, 2019. The second book, Real Talk, was published on March 14, 2023. This third book will be available within 72 hours.
I am allowing the accomplishment to sink in.
I believe this third book, “Your Bullshit is Your Blessing,” will change the world.
That’s an awfully bold statement, but I am confident that looking at upsets, emotions, and feelings in a new way can free people. They will be able to move on from their thinking, get unstuck, and create lives that they REALLY want, instead of the ones they think they are stuck with.
How do I know? Well, it’s worked for me.
I am by nature a negative person. I automatically look for what’s wrong. I thought being that way was wrong for most of my life. I was ashamed that I wasn’t perky and peppy like my mother. I lived in kind of a gray world, happy, but thinking something was just a little wrong with me.
After many years of feeling bad, I finally embraced those parts of me that I thought were wrong.
“What if God made me this way on purpose? What if I can use my negativity as a gift to help others? What if I can make being ‘not positive’ fun and even cool?”
Your Bullshit is Your Blessing is for anyone who has ever had a negative thought about themselves, others or the world.
Let’s make complaining and being upset fun!!
Your Bullshit is Your Blessing will be available on Amazon in a couple of days.
Wait for it……………………………
Thank you to my communities from Landmark Worldwide, Weight Watchers, and Edge Fitness, as well as my family and friends for the amazing support during the book launch of Real Talk this week.
It blew out some of my regular thinking such as:
This book launch defied all expectations. It has had me rethink many words:
I have also grown in the areas of:
All in all, it was a tremendous week and a HUGE accomplishment.
Now, I will need to strap on another pair and do it all again next month with my third book.
My conversation is:
So, it should be fun to play full out a second time next month.
Stay tuned and thanks for listening.
Love,
Bestselling Author, Hilary Arnow Burns
(Doesn’t that sound cool!!!)
What is ‘Real Talk?’
It’s my new book which will be available during my book launch on March 14th.
“Why did you write this book?” I’ve been asked all week.
Here’s my answer:
About 13 years ago, an innocent comment from my then 10 year old daughter woke me up out of an unconcious stupor.
“You’re too old to look good,” she said casually. We were riding down the escalator at the mall and could see our images in the mirror across the way. I had mumbled under my breath how terrible I looked and that was her response.
I was stunned. ‘I am? This is it? I can never look good again? I’m supposed to be like this? What happened to me? What happened to my life?’
Her comment shook me up and had me start examining my life. You can read about how I got my “Real Self” back in my first book, “The Second Piece of French Toast,” available on Amazon. Here is the link in case you haven’t read it:
https://www.amazon.com/Second-Piece-French-Toast-marriage/dp/0578616149
Since then, I have dedicated my life to learning how to love my life and inspire others to also love theirs. I continue to develop techniques for moving from the stuck side of life to the fun, joyful, happy side. I love to unearth new ways to do this and to share my discoveries with others.
There have been many developments in the fast few years:
I have seen that nothing happens until we start talking about things. There is no transformation in our thinking.
This new book, Real Talk, presents the Getting Real Process which has people start saying what they are afraid to say. This helps them eliminate the things that are holding them back, keeping them upset, suffering over, or preventing them from having what they really want in life.
I have seen that by saying the things we don’t say, we create a profound new energy, happiness, passion and attitude for our lives. Why are we afraid? Well, for me I didn’t want to get someone mad, hurt their feelings, be high maintenance, appear difficult, look stupid, lose their friendship, be embarrassed and on and on and on.
When I had the courage to speak up, I experienced a profound freedom. It was like I had taken a happy pill. It felt SO GOOD. I felt like I could do anything. And say anything.
When I supported others in saying what they were afraid to say, I saw the miracles and joy that this created in their lives too.
I decided to write Real Talk so that I could encourage more and more people to say what they aren’t saying. I want to continue to help people eliminate their silent suffering, complaints, resignation and stuckness. I am committed to all people being free to create lives they love.
“Our birthright is joy, happiness, and freedom,” I was taught in a course. “We don’t need to live in a right/wrong, good/bad, true/false world. We can live in a win/win world where we are all connected, belong, and experience a higher consciousness.”
I’m all in for this kind of planet. Real Talk is my current contribution to this mission. I believe that my Getting Real Process will help free people to access our birthright of profound joy.
Let’s live the Real Lives that we are meant to live.
Book Launch March 14th – Find Real Talk on Amazon.com on March 14th.
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I started my interview with Bill Cohen wondering how I was going to get through the 55 minutes on Live Radio. I was distracted by someone knocking on my door and wondered if Bill was going to try to convert me to Jesus. As soon as someone mentions the bible, my eyes kind of glaze over. La dee da dee dah.
But, when Bill said that he spent 14 years and then another 20 proving that the Bible stories are true, I woke up and got curious.
“It’s all about love,” Bill said. “We need to accept Jesus in order to love others.”
“Wait a second,” I asked. “Can’t we just love ourselves? As a Jew, we don’t really do the Jesus thing. Can’t I just accept God instead? “
Bill told me why that won’t work. We discussed my take on Jesus and why accepting him was a problem for me. I can get loving each other, being kind, doing the right thing, but Jesus? I’m not sure.
We talked about Adam and Eve, Lucifer, doubt, and other fun topics.
The great thing was that I got to talk with someone who is knowledgeable and interested in a kinder, loving, gentler world. It was very interesting and we ended up running out of time.
Thank you, Bill, for your curiousity, commitment, and generosity.
Sunshine and light – she is the real thing.
Yesterday I conducted my second live interview on the Getting Real with Hilary Show with Lori Denman.
I was impressed.
Lori told us about her childhood fascination with communication equipment and how she ended up working for Sprint for 30 years. When her career ended abruptly, she struggled with what to do next and did some serious soul searching.
She created an unofficial mastermind with some friends of hers. They got in touch with what they really loved to do and their happy places. Lori conquered her fear of living in the unknown, and surrendered to her new future.
She started working with her husband in a business that took her a while to be able to talk about.
Her husband is a former finance guy turned professional chef who specializes in chocolate. He started a chocolate business that was very successful about 10 years ago and then ran into supply chain issues.
His newest entrepreneurial effort is called Edgeoff.NYC. It’s ingenious and Lori is now his partner. They use cannabis to help people relax, reduce pain and become healthier. They are located at 560 Flatbush Avenue in Brooklyn.
That is one of their adorable and ingenious products. Imagine – delicious, healthy chocolate that helps you chill, takes away your pain, and improves your health. What could be better?
Their next product line involves hemp “cheese” cake. It sounds delicious.
Thank you, Lori, for your willingness to surrender, reinvent yourself, and be courageous enough to risk being called a “Stoner.” I love you.
PS You’ll have to watch the interview to hear all of the other good stuff. It will soon be at https://www.youtube.com/c/GettingRealWithHilary.
Yesterday I recorded my first live show. It was on BBS Radio and went out to over 150 locations. I interviewed Bobby Collins, a 38 year veterian comedian. He has made his living doing comedy for all those years. Amazing. He is living the life many people can only dream of. And, he is a sweet heart of a man.
“Do the right thing,” is his motto. He grew up poor in Queens, NY as a shy boy. By high school, he became class president by using his humor to make friends and become popular. He taught high school and became a Garmento after college while honing his comedy craft. Eventually he took the full time leap into comedy and never looked back.
“I’m alive when I’m in front of an audience,” he said. “Before and after I’m a wreck, but while I’m on stage, I’m in the moment.”
“What’s the toughest challenge you’ve faced,” I asked.
I was surprised at his answer. I thought he would say sticking with the comedy or raising a special needs kid.
“Battling my mind that I’m not poor anymore.” I can’t remember his words exactly, but his facial expression will stick in my mind forever. He was grabbing his head with his hands and pulling his head up and down, squooshing his face together.
“You are not a poor boy from Queens anymore I have to keep telling myself. When my wife wants to spend money, it’s hard for me to just say yes. That’s my biggest challenge,” he continued.
I was nervous for 2 weeks before our interview. I didn’t know Bobby and didn’t know what the hell we would talk about for 55 minutes. I eased my anxiety by watching his comedy, reading his book, and talking to him on the phone a couple of times. That helped me understand more of who he is and what he stands for. I relaxed a little knowing we would just have a fun conversation.
As the minutes approached the 1:00 start time, my heart raced. Doug from BBS Radio was on the zoom with us. He has a great radio voice and did the introductions. Bobby and I started chatting at 1:00 on the nose. It was fun, but at 1:15 I had a moment of panic. How the hell were we were going to get through the next 40 minutes? What could we possibly talk about?
I took a breath and came back to the conversation. We made it through. Bobby is funny, generous, and a good person. I feel like I have made a wonderful new friend, even if we never actually speak again.
I learned life lessons by reading Bobby’s book, On The Inside. Bobby’s next appearances can be found at http://www.bobbycollins.com. His next gig is sold out, so don’t wait to reserve tickets for October 21 in Bethlehem, PA or or October 27th in Myrtle Beach, SC.
Thank you, Bobby for being my first!! And don’t worry, I know you’re married. (He reminded me at the end of the show). Your relationship is an inspiration to all of us!!
Thank you for being a role model for the world for how to do the right thing, be a good person, use your brain, and live your REAL life. Thanks for Getting Real with Hilary.
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I am writing today since it’s the middle of the week and I find myself in a terrible, whiny bitchy mood.
My new thing is to allow myself to be however I am. But it still seems wrong. After all:
So why am I in a bad mood? OK, here goes:
Oh, the book angel is ready. Gotta go. Thanks for listening.
My son sent me a podcast by text with the message:
“This is amazing.”
It’s called 11 Steps to Better Brain Health and Success in Life with Dr. Daniel Amen.
I started listening in my car. It was amazing. I look forward to finishing it.
I am now sitting in my home, drinking my cup of coffee, and feeling the need to write so I can get some freedom.
What’s the problem?
I’ve only been through a few of the 11 steps on his podcast and I don’t like what I’m hearing:
I know I have the incredible ability to turn education/comments/anything into a way to feel bad. Isn’t that a wonderful talent?
A big screaming “NO!!!”
I am writing this blog so that I can use the information I heard today in a more useful way.
My grandmother had dementia and my mom has dementia. My mom drinks coffee. My dad also drank coffee. He did not have dementia. He died with his faculties intact. So it’s not a direct causal relationship. Conclusion: Not everyone who drinks coffee gets dementia.
Here’s where the fear came in: In the past few months I have not been able to think of a word. Maybe about 3 times. But it scared the crap out of me.
Tom Ferry, the interviewer, had 4 major concussions and also noticed that he couldn’t come up with words. Daniel Amen fixed his brain. He is now fine.
I will continue to listen. I will pass on the podcast to my siblings since we all have the same mother.
I also learned that brain cells don’t age. What causes the problem is the blood flow. When the blood flow decreases, it can cause problems.
I can taper off my coffee. I don’t know if decaf is any better, but I can research it.
I can keep learning, not panic, and enjoy my freaking cup of coffee.
Please pass this podcast on to anyone you know who is concerned about their brain health.
Thanks for listening.
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