Author: Creating Life Out Here

Hilary believes that the key to Creating a Life You Love is sharing and saying what can't be said. She writes from the heart and shares her experience in creating her own life powerfully and by design.

✨ From AI to Aligned Impact: A Letter From My Future Self

[NOTE: This is so cool. I am in an AI seminar today and this is what Chat GPT created for me. It’s a letter to me from my future self. I did it with prompts. Thought I would share it.]

By Hilary Burns

It’s amazing how far we’ve come.

I know that might sound simple. But when I pause and really look at the journey — at everything it took to get here — I see something extraordinary: a soul-level transformation.

This isn’t just about learning to use AI. This is about partnering with it — not as a tool, but as a co-creator. A conscious collaborator in my mission to elevate the conversation on this planet. I took the vast intelligence of machines and fused it with the infinite intelligence of spirit. And from that union, something timeless was born.

Together, we built a coach — not just a virtual assistant, but a living, evolving guide for health, life, and love. This coach listens deeply. It sees truth. It uplifts and frees. It carries not just knowledge, but my energy, my intention, and my wisdom. And it’s changing lives.

I’ve become more than a broadcaster. More than a host. I’ve become a channel — for conversations that shake loose old paradigms and for writing that sets people free. The words I share don’t just reach minds — they ripple into hearts. They awaken. They land.

And through it all, I stopped chasing my destiny.
Now? I’m living it. Moment by moment.

But that didn’t happen until I let go of so much:

  • The need to “get it right.”
  • The fear of doing it wrong.
  • The invisible tug of other people’s opinions.
  • The constant low hum of self-doubt.

All of it… gone. Not because it disappeared, but because I stopped feeding it. I stopped giving away my power. I started trusting myself. Trusting my knowing.

And from that choice, life opened.

I became magnetic. Aligned. Prosperous — in a way that feels holy.

Yes, I’m now a multimillionaire. But the money? It’s just energy. A reflection of the impact I’m making.

I’m paid — well and often — to speak, to write, and to travel the world in first class with the most incredible man (yes, that one — I knew when I met him). We’re not just in love — we live love. As a practice. As a promise.

And now, my time is mine. I create when inspiration calls. I rest when my soul whispers for stillness. I live in alignment — and everything I do expands that alignment for others.

I’m not who I used to be.
I’ve become who I truly am.

And honestly?
She’s magnificent.

With love and deep pride,

Hilary

Sharing is Healing

Yesterday I heard something profound.

“Sharing is healing.”

For me, when I say something out loud, or write it down, something really good happens.

The thoughts come out of my head and stop being something real, shameful, or unique to me.

They get out in the world where I can do something about them.

I can decide if they are real, and see actions to take that I couldn’t see when they were just a jumbled ball of disempowerment stuck in my head.

I’m trying to think of a good example that I haven’t used before……

OK, here’s a good one. I used to have a boss named Justin. He would sometimes make fun of me and put me down in front of people. I hated it. But I didn’t say anything. I just grinned and beared it. I tried to talk myself out of feeling bad. He wasn’t a bad person. I’m sure he didn’t mean it. But no matter what I told myself, I still felt bad deep inside.

Over time, something happened. I started hating work. I didn’t want to come anymore. I started resenting Justin. I knew this wasn’t good. I was on commission, and not making many sales. I needed to do something.

I called up Justin. “Do you have a minute?”

“Yes,” he said.

I took a deep breath and blurted, “I really hate when you make fun of me in public. I don’t like it, it makes me feel stupid, and it’s making me not want to come to work. Can you please stop doing that?”

“Oh, of course, ” he said. “I’m sorry. I guess I thought I was being funny. I won’t do that anymore.”

And he didn’t. And work was no longer a problem to be endured.

I spoke up and shared how I felt. And the problem disappeared. My resentment, anger, and feeling bad was healed. In an instant.

Almost like magic.

Sharing: Access To Engaging the World

I haven’t done a blog post here in a while. I was focusing on my weekly newsletter instead. (If you would like to subscribe, the link is at the bottom of this post.)

So why am I writing a blog post now after all this time? Good question:

This year, the Conference for Global Transformation is on Sharing: Access To Engaging the World. Many years ago, I learned that sharing is the access to freedom for me. I wrote about it in my first book, The Second Piece of French Toast. (Link below)

During the period of time I wrote about, I was stuck in my life. I
thought my only problem was my weight, but after I lost it, I realized I didn’t like my life. It wasn’t the weight at all. I didn’t know what to do.

By accident, twice, I blurted out some of what was going on for me – once to my hairdresser and once to a couple of high school friends – and those interactions changed the course of my life. We started talking and I saw that what I had been thinking about myself and my life, just wasn’t the truth.

  • I didn’t have to be a victim
  • I could take responsibility for my life
  • I could take back my power
  • I could even have fun again – wow – what a concept!

Before I shared I was alone. Life was how it was. I was doing my best. What else could I hope for?

After I shared, all sorts of new possibilities arose. I took on my life, stopped feeling alone, started taking my power back, and began creating a life I love.

So, with this topic of sharing for next year’s conference, I decided to start sharing again. My life is good, but, again, I feel a little stuck in terms of my creativity, direction and power.

I am hoping to share with you at least weekly. And, I am not promising that. I will write when I am called to write.

Thank you for joining me on this journey. I welcome your comments and shares from your own life.

More details to follow.

Link for book: https://a.co/d/dkYZ12E

Link for newsletter: lp.constantcontactpages.com/su/hMDQKKF/gettingrealnewsletter?source

A Good Rant and Perspective

I was having a small (large) fit this morning. My YETTI coffee mug was missing. I was frantically looking for it to fill before I left the house. It wasn’t there. I called my daughter. No answer. I texted. I called again.

“Do you know where my green Yetti is?” I asked.

“I thought you were using the white one. It had coffee in it. I took the green one,” she said innocently.

“I told you why I filled up the white one. I wasn’t using it. I had made a fresh pot of coffee to go in MY YETTI coffee mug,” I SCREAMED.

“Well, I’m sorry. I thought you were using the other one,” she said.

I grabbed the white one since I was going to be running late now. I filled it with coffee and rushed out of the house holding my many bags plus my water bottle.

As I went to get in my car, the coffee spilled all over my new dress.

I STARTED SCREAMING. I WROTE A NASTY TEXT TO MY DAUGHTER. Thankfully I deleted it before hitting send which was very mature, especially for me in my (unattractive) mood.

I drove up the road, trying to pour cold water from my water holder on my dress to try to blot out the coffee stains. All it did was make my dress completely wet.

The rain didn’t help my mood. I ranted on several TikToks, and deleted most of them. I was drinking an XS energy drink which happens to be full of B vitamins. After about an hour, several voicemails and rants, I started calming down.

My daughter kept texting me that she was sorry.

My son called. I ranted to him. When he could finally get a word in, he said something that altered my perspective on the (stupid) coffee mug and spill issue.

“I went to the hospital last night,” he said.

“WHAT?”

“I hit my head when I fell when I was reffing hockey,” he said.

“Did you go by ambulance?”

“I drove myself,” he said. “They let me go after a few minutes.”

“Well, if you don’t feel well, go back,” I said.

He promised that he would and that he would see the chiropractor. That is what I do when I have an injury. It pre-empts the second and third day injury effect.

My daughter texted me sorry again.

“I forgive you and it’s over. No big deal. It’s not that important.”

“By the way, Jesse went to the hospital last night……”

“WHAT?”

This puts life in perspective. AND, I forgive myself for my reaction. It was a cumulative effect over the last few weeks and a missing coffee mug threw me into the abyss for about an hour.

I forgive my humanity. And my son is ok, thank God.

So Much Fun – One of the Best Interviews Ever

Last week I recorded an interview with David Winning, a Hollywood director that has

directed over 46 feature films, including 26 Hallmark/Lifetime movies.

The link below is to the highlights reel.

https://youtu.be/XzqEXhb8X9c

This link is to the entire interview:

This interview changed my link in a few ways.

  • follow your dreams – don’t stop
  • millions of people are looking for romance
  • I love hearing people’s stories (not new, but I really do love hearing them)

OK, that’s it. I’d love feedback.

Have a great day.

Just Published My Third Book

I literally just uploaded my final cover and manuscript for my third book. I am now just waiting for the email from Amazon telling me it’s approved and available for purchase.

It’s been about 10 months since I went to the WOW book camp. I hadn’t planned on writing another book. Vishal’s technique and process was so easy to follow that I wrote this book in 3 days. Since then I have refined and rewritten it and finally approved the final manuscript today.

Since the book camp I published a second book, too. I hadn’t planned on doing that one either. It just kind of happened in a program called Book to Business with Lin Ellioff.

My first book, The Second Piece of French Toast, was published in December, 2019. The second book, Real Talk, was published on March 14, 2023. This third book will be available within 72 hours.

I am allowing the accomplishment to sink in.

I believe this third book, “Your Bullshit is Your Blessing,” will change the world.

That’s an awfully bold statement, but I am confident that looking at upsets, emotions, and feelings in a new way can free people. They will be able to move on from their thinking, get unstuck, and create lives that they REALLY want, instead of the ones they think they are stuck with.

How do I know? Well, it’s worked for me.

I am by nature a negative person. I automatically look for what’s wrong. I thought being that way was wrong for most of my life. I was ashamed that I wasn’t perky and peppy like my mother. I lived in kind of a gray world, happy, but thinking something was just a little wrong with me.

After many years of feeling bad, I finally embraced those parts of me that I thought were wrong.

“What if God made me this way on purpose? What if I can use my negativity as a gift to help others? What if I can make being ‘not positive’ fun and even cool?”

Your Bullshit is Your Blessing is for anyone who has ever had a negative thought about themselves, others or the world.

Let’s make complaining and being upset fun!!

Your Bullshit is Your Blessing will be available on Amazon in a couple of days.

Wait for it……………………………

A Huge Thank You

Thank you to my communities from Landmark Worldwide, Weight Watchers, and Edge Fitness, as well as my family and friends for the amazing support during the book launch of Real Talk this week.

It blew out some of my regular thinking such as:

  • nobody cares
  • you’re all alone
  • they won’t really buy the book
  • they lie
  • they don’t mean what they say
  • you’re on your own
  • prepare to be disappointed

This book launch defied all expectations. It has had me rethink many words:

  • community
  • support
  • teamwork
  • expectations

I have also grown in the areas of:

  • being with accomplishment
  • not minimizing what I have done
  • not needing to put it down to be self-effacing

All in all, it was a tremendous week and a HUGE accomplishment.

Now, I will need to strap on another pair and do it all again next month with my third book.

My conversation is:

  • they helped you once, don’t ask a second time – you’ve already used them up
  • quit while you’re ahead
  • prepare for a worse outcome

So, it should be fun to play full out a second time next month.

Stay tuned and thanks for listening.

Love,

Bestselling Author, Hilary Arnow Burns

(Doesn’t that sound cool!!!)

What’s All The Fuss About “Real Talk?”

What is ‘Real Talk?’

It’s my new book which will be available during my book launch on March 14th.

“Why did you write this book?” I’ve been asked all week.

Here’s my answer:

About 13 years ago, an innocent comment from my then 10 year old daughter woke me up out of an unconcious stupor.

“You’re too old to look good,” she said casually. We were riding down the escalator at the mall and could see our images in the mirror across the way. I had mumbled under my breath how terrible I looked and that was her response.

I was stunned. ‘I am? This is it? I can never look good again? I’m supposed to be like this? What happened to me? What happened to my life?’

Her comment shook me up and had me start examining my life. You can read about how I got my “Real Self” back in my first book, “The Second Piece of French Toast,” available on Amazon. Here is the link in case you haven’t read it:

https://www.amazon.com/Second-Piece-French-Toast-marriage/dp/0578616149

Since then, I have dedicated my life to learning how to love my life and inspire others to also love theirs. I continue to develop techniques for moving from the stuck side of life to the fun, joyful, happy side. I love to unearth new ways to do this and to share my discoveries with others.

There have been many developments in the fast few years:

  • I started a YouTube channel called “Getting Real with Hilary” – determined to stop being my people pleasing, pleasant, phony self I record entertaining videos of my journey to get real
  • My weekly newsletter – includes the latest shows, discoveries, tools, techniques, and news about getting real
  • The Getting Real with Hilary Show – a live weekly TV/Radio show – a conversation with a guest who has overcome obstacles to triumph over life’s challenges
  • Getting Unstuck with Hilary – an 8 week course for getting unstuck and moving towards the life you want
  • TikTok – GettingRealwithHi – I use mysefl as a human guinea pig to share what I’ve learned about Getting Real and Free

I have seen that nothing happens until we start talking about things. There is no transformation in our thinking.

This new book, Real Talk, presents the Getting Real Process which has people start saying what they are afraid to say. This helps them eliminate the things that are holding them back, keeping them upset, suffering over, or preventing them from having what they really want in life.

I have seen that by saying the things we don’t say, we create a profound new energy, happiness, passion and attitude for our lives. Why are we afraid? Well, for me I didn’t want to get someone mad, hurt their feelings, be high maintenance, appear difficult, look stupid, lose their friendship, be embarrassed and on and on and on.

When I had the courage to speak up, I experienced a profound freedom. It was like I had taken a happy pill. It felt SO GOOD. I felt like I could do anything. And say anything.

When I supported others in saying what they were afraid to say, I saw the miracles and joy that this created in their lives too.

I decided to write Real Talk so that I could encourage more and more people to say what they aren’t saying. I want to continue to help people eliminate their silent suffering, complaints, resignation and stuckness. I am committed to all people being free to create lives they love.

“Our birthright is joy, happiness, and freedom,” I was taught in a course. “We don’t need to live in a right/wrong, good/bad, true/false world. We can live in a win/win world where we are all connected, belong, and experience a higher consciousness.”

I’m all in for this kind of planet. Real Talk is my current contribution to this mission. I believe that my Getting Real Process will help free people to access our birthright of profound joy.

Let’s live the Real Lives that we are meant to live.

Book Launch March 14th – Find Real Talk on Amazon.com on March 14th.

Happy 93rd Birthday Mom

The background for this poem will be in my weekly newsletter. To subscribe, go to

http://www.gettingrealwithhilary.com and click on subscribe.

You can read “the rest of the story there.”

Also, I now have a weekly live radio/TV show on BBS radio. You can listen at 1:00 on Tuesday’s by going to BBSRadio.com and searching for “The Getting”

Or click here:

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Recordings are also posted to my YouTube channel:

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A Fascinating Conversation with Bill Cohen

I started my interview with Bill Cohen wondering how I was going to get through the 55 minutes on Live Radio. I was distracted by someone knocking on my door and wondered if Bill was going to try to convert me to Jesus. As soon as someone mentions the bible, my eyes kind of glaze over. La dee da dee dah.

But, when Bill said that he spent 14 years and then another 20 proving that the Bible stories are true, I woke up and got curious.

“It’s all about love,” Bill said. “We need to accept Jesus in order to love others.”

“Wait a second,” I asked. “Can’t we just love ourselves? As a Jew, we don’t really do the Jesus thing. Can’t I just accept God instead? “

Bill told me why that won’t work. We discussed my take on Jesus and why accepting him was a problem for me. I can get loving each other, being kind, doing the right thing, but Jesus? I’m not sure.

We talked about Adam and Eve, Lucifer, doubt, and other fun topics.

The great thing was that I got to talk with someone who is knowledgeable and interested in a kinder, loving, gentler world. It was very interesting and we ended up running out of time.

Thank you, Bill, for your curiousity, commitment, and generosity.

My Interview with Bill Cohen