“How was your date?” my friend asked me this morning.
“Well, his wife moved her stuff out last August and he …….”
“What do you mean his wife?” she asked.
“Well, he is not divorced. He gave her a bunch of money but since she still wants her medical benefits, they are separated, not divorced. And since he has no intention of getting married again, he has no plan to get divorced. Plus there was a whole other bunch of weird stuff like he has no place to live, some physical fights he got in, some bouts with the law, and……..”
“That’s incredible,” she interrupted me.
“What?” I asked.
“You always attract the married guys. I attract the guys with kid problems and my other friend attracts alcoholics,” she said.
“Hmmmm…..you’re right. I keep thinking I’m done with that. I wonder why we do that. I don’t like this anymore,” I said.
When we hung up I went on my dating apps. I started texting all of the guys I am currently in dialogue with.
“Are you single? Please be honest.,” I asked them.
Out of about 5, only 1 responded that he has been divorced since 2017.
I don’t know why I am a “clearing” for married and unavailable men or that my friend and her friend are clearings for their type.
All I know is that I am tired of it. And I am going to ask the question that I never thought to ask.
“ARE YOU SINGLE?”
And I’m asking them what they are looking for, too.
Because if we are not looking for the same thing, I don’t want to continue the dialogue.
That is something new that I am saying. And I’m not afraid to say it anymore.
I am GETTING UNSTUCK. And creating the life I want.
Thanks for listening.
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