I promised to “say something new” today. And have the people in my life create something new for themselves for their life.
And I find myself mad.
I’m mad because my son isn’t listening to me. And because the person I am meeting is late.
I think I get mad when I feel like I’m the ass hole.
And I feel like the ass hole when I feel like a jerk.
When do I feel like a jerk?
When I feel like I don’t matter. Irrelevant. I’m making it up just like when I’m hurt or embarrassed. It’s in my paradigm of I shouldn’t be the way I am. Because if I was, they:
- would be listening
- wouldn’t be late
- would understand what I’m talking about
- would buy AFLAC
- would come to my women’s empowerment event
- would be excited about WHATEVER I want them to be
So, isn’t that interesting? Basically everything triggers that paradigm. I get mad and frustrated and don’t want to play. I want to get even. I want them to be wrong. I want them to PAY!!!!!
But if the world was really one big loving community and everyone was perfect exactly the way they were, then none of this would be personal. I am perfect and they are perfect.
So, can I give it up and say something new? My first thought is I DON’T WANT TO!! I’d rather just be mad.
But, truthfully, mad is getting old and not really fun. It’s lonely and lacks connection.
So, I can say that I can tell the woman coming to meet me how happy I am to see her and thank her for all of her referrals.
And I can create something with my son instead of living in fear and judgement. I can give up that I know better and trust him to learn from his experiences (I didn’t say mistakes but I wanted to!!!).
And I can trust that Mark will find his way. I can honor my sadness but trust that this is his path. It’s not my problem and I don’t have to fix either of my boys.
And I can have fun with my mom. That’s all she wants. She wants to laugh and talk and be happy. Not such a bad thing.
So, I will say something new and Create today. And I’m giving up that I don’t know how and don’t have time.
Here she is. Gotta go!!!