This Is How Being Suspicious Can Open Your Heart!

I connected with Ed on an online dating app. We were texting back and forth and I (sort of!) started interrogating him.

“Are you really local?”

“Where do you live?”

“What’s your address?”

I didn’t say “are you lying”, but I was being suspicious…

“Can I ask you a question?” he asked.

“Sure,” I said.

“Why are you suspicious of me?” 🤔

“Hmmmm…..good question…..I guess because I know there are scammers out there,” I answered as if that made perfect sense. 😬

“Well, have you had a bad experience?”

I looked and saw that I really haven’t. There’s been some annoying people 😏 that I’ve had to block, but I really haven’t had such a terrible experience.

I proceeded to tell him about a couple of my friends who did have bad experiences. But through the telling of it, I realized, wow, I have two bad stories and that has made me a suspicious and fearful person.🙊

“I’ve been acting like I’ve been terrorized or hurt or something. I’ve just been very suspicious and fearful,” I said.

“Look, live your life, open yourself up, go for it. Don’t be so closed,” he added.

I did some thinking about this. What I realized is that I’ve had some disappointing relationships. I’m afraid of making another mistake, that I don’t know how to pick people, that I can’t trust my instincts 😮‍ 💨.

I was reading a book called, ‘You Are Awesome’ 📘 It’s about failure. Thes guy who wrote the book had ten failed websites👨‍💻 before he had a winning one. Baseball players ⚾ who have the most success, also have the most failure. They just keep going. 👉 Failure doesn’t mean anything. Failure is just the way to success.

I realized, I got gun-shy when my marriage and last relationship didn’t work out. I didn’t want to put myself out there again. 🙅‍♀️ It’s easier to be suspicious than to be vulnerable.

“You’re going to scare everyone away if you keep acting this way,” he added.

I got quiet for a minute. What he was saying was true.

“Thank you,” I said.👍

I opened up my heart. ❤️

Is there any place where you’ve closed your heart❓

Are you living in fear like I’ve been?

Take a look and see why. Share your stories with me in the comments. 👇 👇

See if you are willing to open your heart. ❤️

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