I connected with Ed on an online dating app. We were texting back and forth and I (sort of!) started interrogating him.
“Are you really local?”
“Where do you live?”
“What’s your address?”
I didn’t say “are you lying”, but I was being suspicious…
“Can I ask you a question?” he asked.
“Sure,” I said.
“Why are you suspicious of me?” 🤔
“Hmmmm…..good question…..I guess because I know there are scammers out there,” I answered as if that made perfect sense. 😬
“Well, have you had a bad experience?”
I looked and saw that I really haven’t. There’s been some annoying people 😏 that I’ve had to block, but I really haven’t had such a terrible experience.
I proceeded to tell him about a couple of my friends who did have bad experiences. But through the telling of it, I realized, wow, I have two bad stories and that has made me a suspicious and fearful person.🙊
“I’ve been acting like I’ve been terrorized or hurt or something. I’ve just been very suspicious and fearful,” I said.
“Look, live your life, open yourself up, go for it. Don’t be so closed,” he added.
I did some thinking about this. What I realized is that I’ve had some disappointing relationships. I’m afraid of making another mistake, that I don’t know how to pick people, that I can’t trust my instincts 😮 💨.
I was reading a book called, ‘You Are Awesome’ 📘 It’s about failure. Thes guy who wrote the book had ten failed websites👨💻 before he had a winning one. Baseball players ⚾ who have the most success, also have the most failure. They just keep going. 👉 Failure doesn’t mean anything. Failure is just the way to success.
I realized, I got gun-shy when my marriage and last relationship didn’t work out. I didn’t want to put myself out there again. 🙅♀️ It’s easier to be suspicious than to be vulnerable.
“You’re going to scare everyone away if you keep acting this way,” he added.
I got quiet for a minute. What he was saying was true.
“Thank you,” I said.👍
I opened up my heart. ❤️
Is there any place where you’ve closed your heart❓
Are you living in fear like I’ve been?
Take a look and see why. Share your stories with me in the comments. 👇 👇
See if you are willing to open your heart. ❤️
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