Why Do Some People Have To Interrupt?

I just got off the phone with someone and I am annoyed. I was trying to speak but I couldn’t get through what I wanted to say because several times she interrupted me to give me advice.

That really bugs the crap out of me.

It used to happen to me when I was married all the time. I couldn’t have the conversation I was trying to have because my ex would either start challenging my choice of words, give me advice, or just start talking about what he wanted to talk about.

I guess feeling heard is important to me. When I don’t get to finish, I shut down and just start resenting the person. And I stay pissed off for quite some time.

Well, that’s not really being cause in the matter of being heard, is it? It’s being a sulky, petulant victim who gets rid of people and makes them wrong instead of just “saying something.”

The problem is that what I want to say is:

  • shut the f–k up you rude bitch. I don’t care what you have to say, just let me f——-g finish. I’m not asking for your advice. I’m NOT FINISHED!!!!!!!!!
  • talk to the hand
  • I’m hanging up
  • f—k you
  • la la la – I’m not listening – let me know when you’re finished and I’ll continue
  • you call yourself a leader? didn’t they teach you to listen? isn’t your advice to me noise?
  • you asked me a question and you’re not letting me answer – wtf?
  • …….

So given all that, it’s probably better that I have kept my mouth shut. I don’t think saying any of those things would have helped the situation at all and it probably would not have ended well.

If I was a little more mature, what could I say instead? Let’s see……….

I got nothing…………I need some time………..


OK, not there yet. Well, at least I’m finding humor in this. That’s a step up from pissed off victim.


OK, I’m obviously not upgrading this at all. But at least I’ve aired out some pent up frustration.

Here’s something: I could ask permission to speak uninterrupted before I start talking. If they don’t have time to listen or can’t do that, I can ask if we can talk another time or find someone else to talk to. Now that sounds mature.

It seems like a lot of work, but it’s got to be better than what I have been doing. And I will keep thinking.

And I have to realize that some people may not be able to stop themselves from interrupting. I can merely grant them being and not take it personally.

But only as a last resort!!!!!!! And that will take some practice!

Thanks for listening. Have a great night!!

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